Here's the truth: trying too hard pushes people away. Not trying at all means nothing happens. The secret is somewhere in the middle - and it's easier than you think.
No one wants to be your only hobby. Have friends, have interests, have things going on WITHOUT a girlfriend.
People are attracted to people who DON'T need them.
Apps are 1 option. But real life beats swiping:
✓ Classes/workshops
✓ Friends of friends
✓ Hobbies
✓ Travel
The more places you go, the more you meet.
Don't approach with "I want a girlfriend" energy. Approach with "you're interesting" energy.
Talk to girls the same way you'd talk to anyone interesting.
Something about the moment:
"This line is killer. What's worth getting?"
"Did you see [thing about the event]?"
"I'm trying to figure out [thing] - you seem like you'd know."
Talk TO them, not AT them.
Ask questions you'd ask anyone:
"How'd you find out about this?"
"What's your take on [topic happening]?"
"What's something you're into that most people wouldn't expect?"
Listen more than you talk.
Before you leave:
"I should let you get back to it. But I had fun talking - want to grab coffee sometime?"
Or: "I'll see you around?"
Done. Not a production.
"How do I get a girlfriend?"
Think:
"How do I become someone I'd want to date?"
Fix yourself first. The relationship will follow.
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